Relationship Advice

Recently, a 24-year-old female acquaintance asked me about how to find a partner for a long-term relationship. Here is a summary from the perspective of a male like me:

• To avoid being influenced by charming yet superficial rhetoric, don't be flattered by being treated like a princess and instead maintain an expectation of being treated as an equal.
• Having a strong attraction towards someone does not automatically indicate that they are your soul mate. Our brains have a tendency to rationalize our emotions, so it's important not to let it deceive us. It is advisable to maintain a clear and rational mindset by seeking the opinions of trusted individuals.
• Romance and long-term relationships are completely different. For a long-term relationship, you need an intelligent, caring and confident person who you can rely on. Do you think such a man might trust and respect you? If not, work on becoming such a woman.
• Instead of fixating on finding a partner, channel your energy into personal growth and enhancing your interests. Share your passions with others and consider creating online content that aligns with the interests of the people you'd like to meet. This provides a common topic to talk about and significantly enhances the chance of getting in touch with a compatible individual.
• The easiest way to find meaning in life is by engaging in activities that you enjoy and that also bring value to others.
• Your health is your most important asset, without health, nothing matters. Exercise daily, get enough sleep, stay away from smoking, alcohol and drugs.
• Be prudent with sexual relationships, the more your body count, the less attractive you will be.
• Dressing modestly instead of provocatively can help your potential partner get to know you better without unnecessary distractions.
• Personally, my most important criteria is to be able to have a conversation for long hours about a wide range of topics, not just about how much you miss/love each other. This demonstrates curiousity, sound reasoning skills and increases the likelihood of successfully resolving future conflicts that are bound to arise once the infatuation subsides.

Understand that finding a long-term partner may not happen quickly, concentrate on becoming a high-quality human being first and looking for a partner second.

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